Child Protection for the Autistic Child - A Resource
1 'the action of checking or proving the validity or accuracy of something’ 2 the action of making or declaring something legally or officially acceptable'. and 3 recognition or affirmation that a person or their feelings or opinions are valid or worthwhile. "they have exaggerated needs for acceptance and validation"
Validation means different things in different contexts as the definitions above show.
Our need for validation as a motivator for our behaviour can be a hard concept to grapple with. Few do not have a need for acceptance even if it is buried deep. I imagine people who help others that have done very bad things have to engage very comprehensively with this need for acceptance even when actions are unacceptable because of the (very serious) harm they do.
I write a blog and that is not in itself a bad thing and I hope but cannot be sure it does some good for me and for others. I could’ent do it if I did’ent think my feelings or opinions are valid and worthwhile. Do I pretend to be something other than I am so I appeal to one constituency or another in a very polarised arena, so more people read my blog? I try not to.
I think that if a person has a high need for validation ( look at me, am I not wonderful? ) for whatever reason it impairs their decision-making because this need to be told "You are wonderful" means they may (only may!) put their own interests ahead of others. I imagine this can apply to professionals working with children and parents alike. Children's social workers concern about ( obsession with?) the standing of their profession seems to me, as an observer, to come dangerously close at times to having a high need for validation.
Judge Wildblood QC starts to look at this along with a wide range of issues that pertain to the family justice system and decision making within it in the Youtube below.