Child Protection for the Autistic Child - A Resource
Mothers of the Disappeared
2018, I don’t like going back to when our son entered Care even in my head but I was given a flyer recently by someone who had worked on this Suffer the little Children and their Mothers : A dossier on the unjust separation of children from their mothers available at http://legalactionforwomen.net calling for protests outside family courts, and it all came flooding back.
Bono sings, in the opening verse of U2’s song - Mothers of the Disappeared, “Midnight, our sons and daughters / Were cut down and taken from us / Hear their heartbeat / We hear their heartbeat.”
Make no mistake that is how I felt when my son entered Care. One of the things I said to the social worker who spoke to me that day was " I will hold all to account for any failings in his care’’. She looked back for a moment and then, to her credit, said "Quite right too, you are his mother’’.
That was pretty much the last time that what I thought or felt about my son mattered to social care professionals. We never had Section 20 rights explained to us, only our son’s right ‘not to share’. This was explained in every context at every opportunity, prefaced by "I’m sorry but…”
It is truly horrible for families when children enter Care. It feels like others who don’t know you or your child are making decisions in a procedural way about practical arrangements and no-one seems to think parents should be involved in decision-making or that it is natural for a parent to want to protect and stay in their child's life. ’'Quite right too, you are his mother’’.
We were recently contacted 'out of the blue' by Social Care about something and I cannot tell you how it feels when you learn how little those involved in his care understood him and the consequences of this.
It was never meant to be like this I’m sure, so what has gone so wrong?
and ‘The next thing I knew, my unborn child had a social worker’ http://www.communitycare.co.uk/2017/12/15/next-thing-knew-unborn-child-social-worker/