Child Protection for the Autistic Child - A Resource
Letter to the social worker supporting our autistic adult son.
Our son turned 18 in June and you took over his case that you did not want because you were already overloaded with work and you knew his case is complex. He has a late diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome and you feel that you do not have the training, experience, support or time to make a difference for someone with his complex needs in your role as a Leaving Care social worker. Please, please go the extra mile for him.
You, like all the other professionals we have dealt with in the last 18 months, believe that because he has a high IQ he must take responsibility for his own health and wellbeing. We respect his to self-determination, but we see the vulnerabilities that he can ‘mask’ from others who do not spend time with him. We love him. We tried to get help when no-one else could see his difficulties as his health deteriorated. Please do not condemn us as 'bad parents' or ‘irrelevant’ and do not ignore our phone calls and emails. You are likely to pass his case to another social worker within months – we will carry him forever in our hearts and our care for his wellbeing will not lessen with time - please, please engage with us.
As his parents, we may seem like a huge challenge to you and your way of working – it is an unspoken assumption that parents in our position will be broken down ‘doing battle’ and we will accept the situation as it is. We are a resource to you if only you could see it.
Would you not want the same for your own child if the situation were reversed?