Child Protection for the Autistic Child - A Resource
Hunger Meaning - "have a strong desire or craving for."
There are different types of hunger, physical hunger, for recognition/affirmation, for truth and for love and acceptance. I think we often hunger most for what is lost or what we missed out on. Someone said to me when something bad happened to their beloved dog, ‘’I know I’m being silly, its only a dog..I’ve no idea how you coped with what happened to your son and I’m being stupid but I’m in bits’’
It made me reflect on the narrative around forced adoption. Many people would, I believe, sympathise with someone who loses a pet easier than someone who loses a child to forced adoption and yet...
I believe that in normal circumstances, a mother’s hunger for a lost child is a hunger that never really disappears.
It is difficult to understand how any system that causes such devastation to young mothers who lose their children to forced adoption, is anything other than unnecessarily cruel. People tell me it is not that simple. Some women are in abusive relationships or have addictions that mean they cannot keep their children safe. That is no doubt true, but I meet mothers when they have moved beyond this and they still have no real contact with their children.
Nobody knows what the future will bring..not for anybody. How do you come to terms with being separated in this way, as an adoptive child in later years, for example, and find a mother, much like any other, that you have been separated from when you or she had almost no control over what happened?
In my own case I was blessed to have many very happy years with my son. That time is gone and is never coming back. I would live a half life where hunger would eat me from the inside out if I could’ent move on. I owe it to myself and the people I love and who love me, not to let that happen - but the hunger does not go away.